1. GET STROKED
Sexy moments can strike when you least expect them. So seize the chance to
spice up a night on the couch. "Have him use his fingertips to slowly,
gently caress your skin," suggests sex therapist Gloria Brame, Ph.D.
"The light, sensual touch creates a tingling sensation that will wake up
your body while also relaxing you for sex."
2. KEEP YOUR PANTIES ON
Back in high school, you probably had rules for how far you'd go: under the
shirt, over the pants, and so on. Well, the teenage you were, was on to
something. "It can be pleasurable torture to play with each other over
your underwear, teasing and stroking through the fabric," says sex coach
Patti Britton, Ph.D. "You're building up the anticipation, so when you
finally do have skin-on-skin contact, it'll be that much more explosive and
exciting."
3. MAKE CIRCLES
Let's be honest: Most guys are just grateful to be getting a blow job.
But that's no excuse to rest on your laurels. Rather than simply moving up and
down, use your tongue to slowly wind around his member. "Swirl up the
shaft with the tip of your tongue. When you're at the top, slide your whole
mouth down and then up, with a sucking motion," suggests sex therapist
Carole Altman, Ph.D., author of Don't Have Sex Again Until You Read This
Book.
4. GIVE BARELY THERE KISSES
Rather than simply making a beeline for his below-the-belt region, create a
slow burn with feather light kisses. Start by kissing his eyelashes, then the
corner of his mouth, his jaw, and his collarbone. Next, kiss his nipples, under
his pecs, and down along his treasure trail and over to one hip bone, then the
other. "You're building up anticipation as you make that slow, seductive crawl,"
says Altman. "And the randomness of your kisses keeps his nerves on high
alert as his brain and body try to figure out where you're going next."
5. BEND IT BETTER
For greater stimulation in missionary position, try this: "Hook your knees
over your guy's shoulders," suggests Britton. "The angle puts more
pressure on the clitoris, giving you a better chance of achieving orgasm."
Clench your butt and lift your pelvis to create more friction and make your
climactic moment even more mind-blowing.
6. GET A LITTLE ROUGH
Give a jolt during sex by gently nipping your partner's shoulders or earlobe.
"When you're in the heat of passion, you may go more into your head than
your body," explains Brame. "A little pain snaps you both back to the
moment."
7. SIT UP TALL
You love you-on-top because you can control the speed, angle, and motion — he
loves you-on-top because he can just lie back and watch. But what lazybones
might not realize is that sitting up can enhance his pleasure even more.
"Not only can you both do more with your arms and hands, but the sex is
also more intimate with your torsos pressed together," says Britton.
8. GUESS WHAT'S NEXT
A little unpredictability during sex can make the experience even more intense
for you. "While in missionary, have him tease you by mixing up his
movements: slipping in just a little, going in halfway, and thrusting deeply,
in random order," suggests Britton. It's his call what sequence he moves
in: two short strokes followed by a long one, three deep ones in a row followed
by two quick teases ... you get the point.
9. SHOW OFF
Although your inner bad girl may get off on the idea of being caught in the
act, the real you may not feel right about sneaking off to a bar bathroom. But
you can feed any secret exhibitionist appetites by doing the deed in front of a
window — with the lights out. "Stand up against the window, facing out,
and have him take you from behind," says Britton. You'll get a rush from
just the possibility of being watched.
10. BLOW HOT AIR
No matter what position you're in, you can enhance the experience by gently
exhaling on each other's skin. "You're already feeling pleasure in your
genitals, but this move adds soft, steamy heat to other sensitive areas like
your neck, your nipples, or the inside of your wrists, giving you tingles from
head to toe," says Britton.
11. FIND A NEW ANGLE
"In order to orgasm from oral sex, you need him to use consistent, steady
strokes," explains Britton. "The easiest way for him to do that is by
licking up and down." But you're more likely to orgasm when his tongue is
running across your clitoris. The solution: Have him situate himself
perpendicular to you (in a "T" shape), lying on his side. He'll be
able to work his tongue more easily, at an angle that's optimal for your
pleasure.
12. BUZZ AWAY
Put a spin on oral sex by getting a third party in on the action — a sex toy.
"While he's pleasuring you, have him lay a vibrating bullet against his
cheek," suggests Olivia St. Claire, author of 302 Advanced Techniques
for Driving a Man Wild in Bed. "It creates a hum that's not too
intense, thanks to the buffering effect of his skin." Of course, this move
also works equally well when you do it for him, so be generous and give back.
13. WORK YOUR MUSCLES
You can put an extra-special twist on intercourse just by clenching your
pubococcygeus muscle (the same muscle you use to stop and start the flow when
you're peeing). "As he enters you, squeeze the muscle tight around him and
then let go as more of his length moves in," says St. Claire.
"Squeeze again as he pulls almost out. Then repeat with each thrust."
This creates a tight pressure around his penis, as though you're massaging it.
The benefit for you: Your clenching motion creates pleasurable tension in your
G spot and clitoris, making orgasm easier to achieve — and more explosive.
14. DON'T TAKE IT ALL OFF
Who doesn't love getting naked? Still, there's something so primal about
clothes-on sex. While wearing a skirt or dress, get on the edge of the bed on
your hands and knees. He unzips his pants, lifts your skirt, and has his way
with you. "It's a spontaneous, must-have-you-now move," says Britton.
15. ANCHOR HIM
Try this hands-on approach to increasing sensation for him during intercourse:
Form a ring with two fingers and your thumb and gently hold down the skin at
the base of his penis. "Pulling his loose skin taut brings the nerve
endings closer to the surface, making him more sensitive," explains St.
Claire.
16. GET ON YOUR FEET
Here's another way to make you-on-top more interesting: Squat over your man
rather than straddling him. "By supporting yourself on your feet, you get
better ease of motion," explains St. Claire. "You can bounce higher
and have more control of your movements, so your pleasure is intensified, and
he can go in deeper, creating new sensations on the tip and around the
base."
17. TIGHTEN UP (OR LOOSEN UP)
There are a million ways to adjust to achieve the perfect, fit. "If you
want more friction during missionary, slide your legs together so that they're
between his," suggests Brame. "You'll have to start out with your
legs flat on the bed, outside of his." For deeper penetration, spread your
legs wider with your knees up.
18. GIVE A TUG
When it comes to his below-the-belt area, you're probably more focused on the
star than the supporting players. But you can make sex a heightened experience
for him by stroking his testicles. "Softly massaging the area increases
blood flow to his pelvic region, increasing his arousal and sensitivity,"
says Brame. "Then, as he's about to orgasm, gently tug on the loose skin
around the 'boys' to amplify his big finish."
19. GRAB HOLD
Call him your prisoner of love and he'll laugh. But pin him to the bed and
he'll know you mean business. "You can take a fun and playful approach to
the whole domination thing by pinning his hands down while you're on top,"
says Brame. "It's a delicious tease because all he wants to do is touch
you, and you're not allowing it." Of course, if you'd prefer that he
take control, just ask!
20. GO NECK AND NECK
You already know that your man's neck is a sensitive spot — his little shivers
and moans when you nibble at his throat should clue you in. Still, there are a
few nooks that will elicit even more of a "yowza!" reaction.
"The line that runs from behind his ear down to the crook where his neck
meets his shoulder is especially sensitive," says Britton. "You can
lightly kiss other lesser-known hot spots as well, like along his jawbone and
even the back of his neck."
21. TICKLE HIM
He may think he's seen every trick in the book, but show him you're still full
of surprises with this oral sex move: While down south, slip your finger into
your mouth and stroke him. "The unexpected texture makes it a pleasurable
treat for him," explains St. Claire. The creativity alone will give him a
rush since it's something he's probably never experienced before.